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What Is Nanny Monitoring? How I Became A “Nanny Spy”

To understand how LW Wellness Network came to be, it’s important to also understand my background as a Nanny Spy. You might be wondering what Nanny Monitoring is, and why it’s such an integral part of what we do here as a family concierge service, so let me give you a little background.

I worked as a nanny for many years before becoming a mom myself and hiring nannies of my own so I definitely understand the business from both sides. My first Nanny Spy job came to me quite naturally, before I even realized this was such an important service that many parents were looking for and need.

After seeing one particular nanny always come to the same park with the child she was looking after and consistently neglect him to the point where I felt it was getting dangerous, I asked around and was able to contact the mother. She was so grateful to me and this idea that I would “spy on nannies” kind of sprang from there.

My first actual assignment as a nanny spy was, as you can imagine, a very nerve-racking — and yes very exciting — experience!!!

The client had hired me for eight hours to follow their nanny and report back on exactly where the nanny was and what she was doing with the child during the day. It might sound a little odd, but these parents had grown suspicious of the woman looking after their 3-year-old son and they felt they could get peace of mind if I was able to bring them back some hard evidence and facts.

They were obviously hoping I would report back that the day had gone smoothly and their son was in capable, loving care the entire time, but in the event that this wasn’t the case, they wanted that knowledge so they could immediately fix the situation.

In this particular case, nothing too alarming happened. I did witness the nanny flirting with guys; the child was definitely not her main focus. I saw her talk to a strange man at Central Park, which I definitely thought was a red flag.

The most disturbing part, though, was that I was able to witness her bad mouthing the family to other people. She said that the parents were never home and that kid was super hyper and required a lot of attention.

All of this I reported back to the family. While I didn’t feel the child was in grave danger, I did recommend that they sit down and talk with the nanny, as it seemed like the relationship had been damaged and was no longer productive for them all.

As the years went by, I spied on hundreds of nannies and wrote countless reports for parents and it became clear to me that what I was doing was protecting the innocent children from being emotionally/physically abused or neglected by their child care providers.

My passion and mission in life is to prevent mental illness and promote wellness in families. The Nanny Spy service is not about “spying on” or “ratting out” your nannies. It’s really about giving peace of mind to parents, documenting red flags, and stepping in if the situation is at all dangerous for the child.

Many of the nannies I observe are incredible, loving, giving nannies and they help protect children and do their best to create a healthy, well-balanced environment. However, the few who I find are not doing their jobs and either neglect or abuse the child, or they are not mentally or physically well for the job, help reinforce the importance of what I’m doing.

LW Wellness Network is a family concierge agency dedicated to bringing vital resources to parents as they raise their children. We’re all about collaborative care giving and open communication when it comes to parents and nannies.

If you’re interested in more information about our services as they relate to your nanny, contact us today!

The Nanny Search

So you know you need to hire a nanny, but where do you begin looking? 

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For many parents, the task of finding a childcare professional can be daunting, even if this isn’t your first time going through the process. For those of you who are new to parenting, or who have recently relocated to a new city and don’t yet have a network of people you trust who you can ask for advice, the prospect of locating, vetting, interviewing and then hiring a new nanny can seem near impossible.  Below are a few tried and true options families can use when approaching their search.

Reach out to friends:  The first place to start is asking friends, neighbors or other acquaintances you know who have children of a similar age, or that have had babysitters in the past. Ask them where they would recommend looking for a nanny, and if they have any suggestions for people they have used in the past that might be a good fit for your family. The best advertising is often through word-of-mouth!

Look within your community:  If you have just relocated to a new area, you may not know people you can ask yet. Or, perhaps your friends weren’t able to provide you with helpful answers.  Either way, your next step should be to reach out to people in your community to ask for advice. If you belong to a church, mosque or synagogue, many times nannies and babysitters will advertise their services there. You can also contact teachers and administrators at local schools to ask for guidance.  he more people you reach out to, the better chance you will have of finding exactly what you are looking for.

Use the internet:  Another great “first step” is always to perform an internet search. Search for terms like “childcare professionals in [your city],” and sift through the results you find. You may find local nanny agencies, ads from nannies looking for work on websites such as Craigslist or CareerBuilder or Mommy blogs that can give you guidelines and advice for how to navigate websites such as Care.com and GoNannies.com.

Whatever method you choose, the end result should be the same. We all want to have as many options as possible when selecting the person who will be caring for our children. The more avenues you have to search, the better your chance is of finding the perfect nanny for your family.  Happy hunting!

If you’re interested in more information about our services as they relate to your nanny, check out our nanny consulting page or contact us today.