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How A Mindfulness Coach Can Improve Your Life

How A Mindfulness Coach Can Improve Your Life

“Mindfulness is about being fully awake in our lives. It is about perceiving the exquisite vividness of each movement. We also gain immediate access to our own powerful inner resources for insight, transformation, and healing.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn

How many times in the past few months have you heard the word “mindfulness”? It’s become a “buzzword” in today’s world. Many people talk about it, but few actually understand the true meaning of mindfulness. At its root, mindfulness is a form of meditation. Jon Kabat-Zinn defines it as follows: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.”

That might sound simple at first, but when’s the last time you can say you honestly practiced this state of being for any amount of time? Would you ever consider having a mindfulness coach to help you achieve such a state? I have to be honest and admit that when I was first introduced to mindfulness, I thought it was an impossible goal that I would never achieve. After all, I had much better things to do that didn’t require me to pause and think about the present moment, and I thought those things would place me ahead of the game. What I didn’t realize back then was that learning to pause and focus on what was going on in the present moment — without judgment! — would allow me to be more productive, happier, and more fulfilled in what I was doing. Mindfulness helped pave my way toward a better present and future, and I have no doubt that it can help you do the same!

Mindfulness has become very popular in the past few years, particularly after large companies such as Google and ebay started using it to help benefit their business by teaching mindfulness to their employees. Google took it a step further, and has a program called “Search Inside Yourself” that is helping its employees learn and practice mindfulness. The idea behind it is that we can improve our emotional intelligence by utilizing mindfulness and neuroscience. Basically, as humans, we perform better if we are aware of and able to grow our emotional intelligence, which is broken into five sections: self-awareness, self-management, motivation, empathy, and leadership.

Many scientists have also provided evidence that practicing mindfulness can actually lead to stronger connections in the brain that will eventually change the structure of the brain. Yes, it sounds kind of crazy, but it’s called “neuroplasticity.” It is a hot topic in the field right now, and it is helping millions of people become more and more mindful.

If I told you that you could improve your life and reduce your stress and anxiety by working with a mindfulness coach, would you consider working with one? Even for one or two sessions? I am hoping that by the time you are done reading about the ways that a mindfulness coach can help improve your life, you might consider making the investment in yourself. But first, let’s dive right into how a mindfulness coach can help you feel better!

# 1 Help You Create a Clear Direction For Your Life with Greater Passion

If you are feeling lost and unsure about which direction to take, or if you feel that you know the direction, but are currently paralyzed by your fears, then you might want to consider working with a mindfulness life coach. One challenge that many of us face is getting lost in our thoughts and feelings whenever we think about future plans, our true desires, and how we can achieve those goals. You know when you feel like thoughts are swirling around in your brain, but you can’t make sense of them? We don’t allow ourselves to trust that when we relax our minds and listen to ourselves and our wishes without the many life distractions that are in our way, we might actually find the answers to our questions.

Your mindfulness life coach can provide you with the insight and support to find and stay on your path of awakening to your authentic self so you can find out what you were truly meant to do. In order for you to be able to find your authentic self, your coach will help you declutter the thoughts that are sometimes toxic and unproductive, and help you pave your way to cultivating a mindfulness practice, where you can learn to notice and effectively clear your mind. This then gives way for attention and intention to emerge. As you become more present and aware of your thoughts, you will learn to redirect those thoughts to make room for more positive and constructive ones.

Throughout the process of working with your mindfulness coach, you will begin to engage in a more positive mode of thinking, and be able to let go of the distracting thoughts that prevented you from achieving your goal. As you become more present and able to achieve your desired goals, you will also be on your way to a more joyous and fulfilled state of being.

Zen Mindfulness Meditation

#2 Learn how To Express Your Inner Strength and Unique Abilities

Many of us tend to look at our own qualities as flaws or imperfections, but we look at other people’s qualities as unique abilities or successes. With the help of your mindfulness coach, you will develop an awareness of your strengths and unique abilities and invest your energy and time focusing on these traits — instead of constantly dwelling on your weaknesses or perceived flaws. Furthermore, your mindfulness life coach will help you realize that in every moment there are opportunities for change and growth.

Learning to express inner strength and unique abilities will help you feel better about who you are and help you develop true self confidence and self esteem. When you are younger — if you are lucky — you have parents, teachers, and coaches that help cultivate these qualities and build up your self esteem. However, as we become adults, we are often left feeling lost. It can feel selfish and indulgent to think too much about your good qualities, what separates you from your peers. This is where a professional can help. Investing in yourself is never a waste of time.

The incredible thing about the practice of mindfulness is that the more your practice, the more your behaviors become your default and your habits become something that serve rather than something that harms you. Your mindfulness coach will also provide you with practical tips techniques and skills that will support you in making lasting, meaningful change in your life.

#3 Help You Find Joy in Everything You Do

In life we don’t always do things that we want or love to do, but sometimes these things can lead us to other things that are more meaningful. Think about something that you did that you didn’t want to do because you had something else better to do.

One example that comes to mind for me is when Shiloh, my 8-year-old daughter, asked me to play the game Guess Who with her. Of course, I wanted to play with her for as long as I could, but it just so happened that that day, I had a long list of things to do, including cleaning the kitchen and finish working on an important project. However, I looked Shiloh in the eyes and said that I would love to play with her. I made a conscious decision that since I was having special time with her, I would be fully invested and committed to what we were doing. I got into the game and we ended up playing for almost an hour. At one point, I looked up and we were both laughing so hard, and she was looking at me with so much love. It reminded me how fun and innocent it is to be a child, and I realized how rewarding and redeeming it was for me to relish in my role as her mother. I truly enjoyed being in the moment and playing with this beautiful child of mine and sharing such important time.

The kitchen and my other work waited, and I don’t regret that time we spent together. It sounds simple when I outline it like that, but the number of times a day we prioritize the “wrong” tasks on our lists will become more evident as you practice mindfulness. A mindfulness coach can help you decipher what you need to do versus what you want to do versus what will bring you both temporary and long-lasting joy.

# 4 Connect With Your Inner Wisdom

You might be reading this and asking yourself, “What is inner wisdom?” Inner wisdom is defined differently by different people, but it’s essentially something inside of us all that is pure. It’s a light inside that we don’t always see. Inner wisdom is also sensory versus all the loud voices that we hear and rules that we obey. Some refer to it as intuition. I remember thinking that some people have a more developed intuition than others — which to me meant they had a very special ability. While some people possess a very developed intuition and might have so-called special abilities, I have come to believe and witness that with practice, we can all become more intuitive and better connected to our inner wisdom. This is something a mindfulness coach can help you cultivate.

Feeling more connected to yourself will enable you to see what stands in your way more clearly and find/identify the appropriate solutions more easily. With the help of your mindfulness coach you will be able to seperate your rational voices from the emotional ones and access your inner voice that is beautiful and pure. This might sound like an impossible task, but with practice, you will be able to get there and find that you can live and lead a happier more fulfilled life style.

I remember that I when started working with a mindfulness coach over 10 years ago, I kept telling him that I had to get more and more training so that I could be as helpful as I could to my own clients. His response to me was this: “Your trunk is wide and full of information. From now on, you must focus on using what you know already and more importantly the skills and knowledge you possess that you never believed you had before.” These words stayed with me for a long time. I realized that when I was first working with clients, I spent hours and hours trying to find the answers to what they were going through, but always doubted my own intuition. As a new therapist, these doubts were probably normal, but what my coach helped me do more of was allow and trust my inner unique abilities to be used and expressed.

Providing therapy for my clients after that was a lot more enjoyable for me and more effective for my clients. I found that by making true meaningful connections with people I was able to experience life in a much more authentic way. More importantly, by demonstrating to my clients that I was present, I was able to connect with them and help them in new ways. I finally learned to trust that my education and skills were enough — and not just enough, but incredible tools to share that bring me much joy.

Calm relaxed woman meditating with laptop, no stress at work, mental health mindfulness coach

# 5 Help You Achieve Optimum Physical Health

There is much evidence for the the positive physical and health benefits mindfulness brings. There is a reason that so many people are drawn to the wonderful world of mindfulness. A study by Remmers et al (2016) found that mindfulness can help alleviate stress through improving emotion regulation, leading to a better mood and better ability to handle situations. Many other studies help support this finding by stating that when individuals induce a state of relaxation achieved through mindfulness, the benefits include higher brain functioning, increased immune function, lower blood pressure and heart rate, and increased awareness, attention and focus.

One of my most favorite experts in mindfulness, Dr. Daniel Siegel, published one of the first books ever to integrate neuroscience research with mindfulness. In his groundbreaking book he shows readers how personal awareness and attunement can stimulate emotional circuits in the brain, leading to a host of physiological benefits and improved cardiac and immune function.

It’s easy to put your physical health and your mental health into separate boxes in your mind, but when you realize just how connected they are, it will change your life for the better. Oftentimes, investing in your mental health is a vital step to improving your physical health.

The most important thing to take from working with your mindfulness coach is that it is possible to be fully present, fully engaged in life, and live the authentic life that you want to live. Your life can be full of purpose, and you can finish each day knowing that you lived it well.

If you would like me to connect you with one of our expert therapists or dietitians, please contact me. I look forward to hearing from you!

Top 5 Reasons Why You Need A Life Coach

Top 5 Reasons Why You Need a Life Coach

Has the thought, “I need a life coach” ever crossed your mind? Are you not sure you need one, but still feeling like you need help of some kind? Maybe someone recommended that you get a life coach, but you are skeptical? Before you write the idea off, let’s first talk about what a life coach is.

A life coach, also called a personal development coach, is someone who counsels clients on anything from career obstacles to personal challenges. But a life coach isn’t just anyone off the street. Personal life coaches are certified professionals whose job it is to equip you with the tools you need to succeed in whatever areas in which you are struggling. The International Coach Federation (IFC) is an organization dedicated to the advancement of coaching throughout the world. It is a highly respected organization that certifies life coaches. The organization is dedicated to making coaching “an integral part of society.” While it is not the only certification program for life coaches, it is one of the most reputable. The takeaway, though, is that coaching has rapidly evolved into a structured, nuanced profession, and the people who go through the certification process are highly trained and qualified. It’s a profession that is regulated, so you can look up a potential coach’s qualifications, as well.

At the end of the day, asking for help and leaning on the support of professionals is a true sign of strength, not weakness. In fact, there are a lot of reputable organizations who make use of some form of “coaching” for their team members. The Chartered Institute of Personnel Development (CIPD) did a study in 2009 of the professional coaching industry. Of the organizations surveyed, 90% reported using coaching. What’s even more interesting is that even as the economy took a hit, 70% reported continuing and even increasing their investment in coaching for their teams — proving many businesses feel like their ROI for coaching is high. Many professional sports teams also use a form of coaching off the field. Teams often hire coaches for leadership and character development for their players. So if all these large organizations are using coaching, why not try it on a personal level for your own unique needs?

If you are doing some soul searching and feel like you need a little help, consider these five reasons on why you should find a personal life coach.

# 1 Get selfish

It’s time to think about yourself! Yes, you read that right. When we think about the word “selfish,” it usually brings up negative connotations, but the truth is, being selfish can sometimes be very productive and healing. When’s the last time you paused to ask yourself what you need? Your list of needs can include everything from material needs to physical needs to mental and spiritual wellness and fulfillment. Working with a life coach will give you the space to first and foremost figure out what those needs are, and then to form a plan to figure out how those needs can be met. It’s easy to say you are going to set aside time for yourself to meditate, journal, or come up with a list of goals. However, the reality is that we often put ourselves last on our to-do lists. A coach will give you the freedom and the time to put yourself first and then hold you accountable to your goals, while offering guidance and support. If you think investing in your own personal happiness is selfish, then it’s important to stop thinking about being selfish as a bad thing.

Personal Development Coach

#2 Get happy

You can lead a happier, more fulfilled life. This seems like a cliché, but all too often, people give up on their own happiness and settle for less. Everyone tells you it’s true, and it is, but you have to make time for it! We know that as humans, we like to be working toward something — to be moving forward in life. We also know that as humans, we crave happiness, even if we can’t define what that means in our lives.The study of happiness — how to get it, what factors play the biggest role, how to measure it — has actually become an area scientists and researchers are studying more and more. Why? Because it’s kind of like a universal goal. If you think the pursuit of happiness is a waste of time, there is science that would disagree with you. A study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences revealed that certain types of happiness can actually have an effect on our genes, specifically antibody and antiviral genes. A Finnish study used body maps to show how emotion is expressed throughout the body, and happiness was the one emotion shown to activate every part of the body from the head down to the feet. Other interesting research reveals that age also plays a factor in determining what makes one happy. As we change, sometimes we need help discovering how to get back on our own personal path toward a life that brings us joy.

A life coach is there to guide you on your personal journey toward happiness — at whatever age or crossroads you find yourself. To use a sports metaphor: “You are the player in this relationship, and it is the coach’s job to help you succeed in the game.” So, if you’re feeling like you are missing out on joy in life, a coach can teach you the fundamentals to take your fulfillment to the next level. Stop and think for a moment about your own happiness. Have you lost sight of what makes you happy? Or do you feel like you are in rut? Are your days comprised of going through the same monotonous motions? Professional athletes invest so much into their physical abilities. Perhaps it’s time you started treating your life like the ultimate game. Isn’t your life worth investing in?

Life Coach

# 3 Get unstuck

According to the current edition of The Conference Board Job Satisfaction survey, less than half of US workers report job satisfaction.

“In 2013, the percentage of workers satisfied with their jobs was 47.7, well below the historical level of 61.1 percent in 1987. Increasing by a mere 0.4 percentage points from the previous year, overall job satisfaction continues to improve from its lowest point (42.6 percent in 2010), albeit at a disappointingly slow pace.” -The Conference Board

why you need a life coach

Considering how much of our lives are spent at work — and the fact that we depend on jobs for our income — it’s discouraging how many of us feel like we are at a roadblock. You don’t have to accept job dissatisfaction. When you feel like you’ve done everything in your power to achieve your career goals, a coach can offer up new and different strategies to get you on a track that makes you feel both challenged and accomplished. It’s easier to believe that nothing will ever change, but if you feel like you are wasting your days — STOP! You don’t have to figure out everything alone.

#4 Get through major changes

Facing life transitions is difficult on your own. Change is hard. That’s just a fact. At different points in our lives we all face life transitions, which can result in feeling lost, confused, sad and even depressed. These feelings can cloud our judgements and affect other areas of our lives, particularly our relationships. Working with a coach who is able to offer an outside perspective will help you organize your thoughts and feelings, as well as provide a consistent voice in the face of chaotic changes. Life changes can happen at any time. Whether you are transitioning from school to employment, changing careers, going into or getting out of a relationship, starting a family, moving, or going through any other life-changing event, it can feel like your entire life is spiraling out of control. Even small transitions, like a promotion at work, can cause other areas of your life to seem confusing. It’s normal to crave stability, but it’s also not practical to think that everything will always be stable. It is ok to ask for help when you find yourself attempting to navigate the uncertain waters of life.

#5 Get the vital tools you need

You may not currently have the skills you need to execute your plan or get to the next level. Some people have very specific ideas and goals for their life, but they feel like they aren’t attainable. A coach can equip you with new skills that will allow you to do more and reach your full potential — whether that’s in your relationships, your job or your mental well-being. You are already creative. You are already whole. You are already resourceful. You might just need to harness a few things to be able to put everything together to rise above your current situation. Think about all the things we learned as toddlers and young children. We learned so much every day and progressed at such a rapid rate in everything from motor skills to emotional intelligence. At some point, that learning curve plateaus, but does it have to stop? The answer is no. A coach is a resource that will allow you to keep growing, keep learning and continue to acquire new skills. We’d never tell a child who just mastered crawling that there was no need to learn to walk. Don’t cut your potential short by not taking the time to see how you can grow with more guidance.

A life coach means you have someone “in your corner” at all times — someone who will listen (and truly hear you), educate (and not judge you) and see you (while viewing you at your highest self)! Whether or not you believe it, you can absolutely be your best self, and a personal development coach is a great way to help you get there. A life coach is an adviser, friend, confidant, consultant, navigator and facilitator. They are trained in this, so why not let them help you reach your highest self? Get happier, more free and more on task to achieving your goals.

If you’re thinking, “Yes, I already have friends and family members who are always in my corner,” that’s great — but often that might not be enough. Our loved ones are vital components to our everyday lives and our happiness, but it’s impossible for them to offer a completely objective perspective because they know us on such a personal level. It’s also not fair to treat our family and friends as though they are paid professionals. They are also trying to navigate life and haven’t studied or been trained in how to dole out advice and guidance. So while building and nurturing personal relationships is always a great thing, a life coach is a unique relationship, one that cannot be duplicated by an already existing friendship.

Yes, a life coach is an investment, as they aren’t free, but consider how much your happiness is worth. It’s just as important to take care of our mental well-being as our physical well-being. This is not a short-term investment, either. The whole idea behind life coaching is that the benefits will last a lifetime. Factoring in your long-term mental health, how much are you willing to spend to get back on track?

Are you ready to step into a life of choice?

Have you ever thought, ““I need a personal life coach?”

Are you ready to nurture your personal self?

It’s time to take the leap!

If you would like me to connect you with one of our expert therapists, coaches or dietitians, please contact me. I look forward to hearing from you!